i used to be this girl
waiting for a boy to come rescue her expecting the discovery of a soulmate to fix me dreaming of a fairy-tale a prince and a magical life but the fantasy is over instead of being that girl i killed her leaving behind the corpse of my childhood wishfulness and becoming something new i'm not the damsel in the ivory tower pleading for a savior i'm the knight alongside you capable of liberating myself the damsel is dead let's fight for something else
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they commit "chivalrous" acts
open doors for you let you walk first pay for your coffee don't discuss taboo subjects in your presence and "defend your honor" working hard to be labeled a gentleman but simultaneously, they degrade talk over you as if you're non-existent assume you're inferior to a male counterpart inappropriately "compliment" you give you unwarranted advice and put you in a child-bearing box "let men be gentlemen. let them do what they're supposed to" they tell me but i won't stroke your ego i won't allow you to buy into the antiquated patriarchal chivalrous complex because being a gentleman is about respect and you have none for women you believe
you've taught me something-- don't make me laugh it's just like a man to credit himself for something he had no part in to speak condescendingly as if i should be honored to have him as an "advisor" i didn't ask for nor desire to behave as though his offensive & sexist remarks are wisdom from the very mouth of God to explain something he has little to no knowledge of to dumb it down to "simple terms even a woman can understand" your "mansplaining" is just another form of misogyny i don't need your explanation affirmation or advice keep your prideful ignorance to yourself or better yet don't open your mouth at all "girls like you are the reason we can't have any fun" "girls like you are why boys can't just be boys anymore" "girls like you are upsetting the balance" "girls like you need to learn your place" women like me are the reason your "fun" is exposed for the misogyny it is women like me are why "boys will be boys" is no longer good enough to cover a man's misbehavior women like me are balancing the scales to where they should be women like me don't need to learn anything from your antiquated tradition & sexism women like me are the future while people like you belong in the past therefore get out of my way get on board or get left behind all the men in my life have tried to control me
so excuse me if i shy away from the idea of being bonded to you when you're a perfect carbon copy of them just waiting to immure me have you noticed
when you say you're single the common response is along the lines of: "don't worry, the right one will come" as if i spend all of my time fretting because i'm not bonded to a man if i wanted a man i'd have one if i needed a man i'd get one but i don't want or need one i have more important things to worry about than my relationship status i have work to do and can't afford to dwell on such trivial matters so don't pity me because i'm single by choice and it will stay that way until i decide otherwise |
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